S2E13: Mom Rage is a Weathervane—Minna Dubin on Maternal Anger and Structural Inequalities in American Society
“I think about rage as containing information. I talk about anger as a weathervane pointing you towards the places that need attention and healing. So I think rage can be useful in that way of teaching you what needs to change in your life. And it might be that you need more support or you need to not be in charge of bedtime every night or whatever.
Rage is also useful in giving you the energy to create change larger than just your little home.”
~ Minna Dubin
We are really excited to share with you this illuminating and enlightening conversation with Minna Dubin. Kaitlin and Minna had the great privilege to meet by way of the Artist Residency in Motherhood group, which she's mentioned on the podcast in the past.
Minna is the author of the book, Mom Rage: The Everyday Crisis of Modern Motherhood, which is out from Seal Press the very week that this episode is released this September, 2023.
Her writing has been featured in the New York Times, Salon, Parents, The Philadelphia Inquirer, Romper, The Forward, Hobart, MUTHA Magazine, and Literary Mama. As a leading feminist voice on mom rage, Minna has appeared on MSNBC, Good Morning America, The Tamron Hall Show, NBC10 Boston, and NPR.
“Modern motherhood is a setup for anger.” ~ Minna Dubin
She lives in Berkeley, California with her husband, her two children, and no pets, she clarifies because, as she says, enough is enough.
Minna and Kaitlin talked about:
How Minna came to writing, particularly how she came to the writing structure she uses in writing Mom Rage.
The different facets of mom rage, and how rage can look different for each individual.
The individual and the institution and how the interplay of both come to highlight where rage and power structures intersect.
How Minna finds community now that she has a clear understanding of those power structures and how they impact her experience of motherhood
How family structures in other cultures and parts of the world differ, and how the individual experiences of motherhood are impacted when you have these structures.
Parenting neurodivergent children and how the lack of societal support structures for them interplays with mom rage.
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More about Minna:
Website: www.minnadubin.com
Twitter: www.twitter.com/minnadubin
Instagram: www.instagram.com/minnadubin
Pre-order your copy of Mom Rage here: https://bookshop.org/a/86159/9781541601307
Related Resources:
An Artist Residency in Motherhood: www.artistresidencyinmotherhood.com
Mom Rage: The Everyday Crisis of Modern Motherhood by Minna Dubin: https://bookshop.org/a/86159/9781541601307
The Rage Mothers Don’t Talk About - Minna Dubin|The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/mother-rage.html
More about Jessica Grose: https://jessicagrose.com/
New York Times Parenting: https://www.nytimes.com/international/section/parenting
‘I Am Going to Physically Explode’: Mom Rage in a Pandemic - Minna Dubin|The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/06/parenting/mom-rage-pandemic.html
About Iceland’s Women's Day Off (kvennafrí): https://kvenrettindafelag.is/en/resources/womens-day-off/
A conversation on Alloparenting with Dr. Darcia Narvaez: https://www.postpartumproduction.com/episodes/s2e9
The National Domestic Workers Alliance: https://www.domesticworkers.org/
Rebecca Solnit quote “Liberation is always in part a storytelling process: breaking stories, breaking silences, making new stories.”
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